Do unto others as you would have them do unto you
The following article is written by Karen Armstrong, a former num turned religious scholar.
She is the author of The Spiral Staircase: My Climb Out of Darkness (Alfred A. Knopf, 2004) and Buddha (Penguin, 2001).
This article is reprinted from the March/April 2005 AARP Magazine. I was struck by the power
the word "Compassion" has in expressing most if not all of the principles espoused by this web site. Obviously, "Do unto others
as you would have them do unto you" is a very powerful statement and is almost synonymous with the word "Compassion".
Psychologist Carl Jung once said that a great deal of institutional religion seems designed to
prevent the faithful from having a spiritual experience. Instead of teaching people how to live in peace, religious leaders
often concentrate on marginal issues:
Can women or gay people be ordained as priests or rabbis? Is contraception permissible?
Is evolution compatible with the first chapter of Genesis?
Instead of bringing people together, these distracting
preoccupations actually encourage policies of exclusion, since they tend to draw attention to the differences between "us"
and "them". These policies of exclusion can have dramatic consequences. Most notably they have given rise to the militant
piety that we call fundamentalism, which erupted in every major world religion during the 20th century.
movement, whether in Judaism, Christianity, or Islam, is convinced that the modern secular establishment wants to destroy
it. Fundamentalism is not inherently violent; most fundamentalists simply want to live what they regard as a good religious
life in a world that seems increasingly hostile to faith. But when a conflict has become entrenched in a region,as in the
Middle East, Afghanistan, and Chechnya, religious fundamentalists have gotten sucked into the escalating violence and become
part of the problem.
Even in the United States members of the Christian Right believe that their faith is in jeopardy
and that they have a sacred duty to protect it by attacking their liberal opponents. When people feel that their backs are
to the wall, they often lash out aggressively. Hence the hatred that continues to cause so much turmoil around the world.
Yet such religiously inspired hatred represents a major defeat for religion. That's because, at their core, all the
great world faiths,including Confucianism, Hinduism, Buddhism, Judaism, Christianity, and Islam,agree on the supreme importance
The early sages and prophets all taught their followers to cultivate a habit of empathy for all living
beings. Why, then, do supposedly "religious" leaders declare war in God's name? And why do some people use "God" to give a
sacred seal of approval to their own opinions?
I would argue that these people have forgotten what it means to practice
compassion. The word compassion does not, of course, mean to feel sorry for someone. Like sympathy, it means to feel with
others, to enter their point of view and realize that they have the same fears and sorrows as yourself.
The essential dynamic of compassion is summed up in the golden rule, first enunciated by Confucius in about 500 B.C.E.:
"Do not do to others as you would not have done to you."
Confucius taught his disciples to get into the habit
"likening to oneself".
They had to look into their own hearts, discover what gave them pain, and then
rigorously refrain from inflicting this suffering upon other people.
The Buddha also taught a version of
the golden rule. He used to advise his monks and lay followers to undertake meditative exercises called "The Immeasurables".
They had to send out positive thoughts of compassion, benevolence, and sympathy to the four corners of the earth, not omitting
a single creature (even a mosquito!) from this radius of concern. They would thus find that once they had gone beyond the
limiting confines of egotism and self-interest, their humanity had been enhanced. They would even have intimations of infinity.
Rabbi Hillel, the older contemporary of Jesus, taught the golden rule in a particularly emphatic
way. One day a heathen asked him to sum up the whole of Jewish teaching while standing on one leg. Hillel stood on one leg
and replied: "That which is hateful to you, do not do to your neighbor. That is the Torah; the rest is commentary; go and
This is an extraordinary statement. Hillel did not mention any of the doctrines that seem essential to
Judaism, such as belief in one God, the Exodus from Egypt, and adherence to the complexities of the Law of Moses.
Jesus taught the golden rule in this way: he told his followers to love even their enemies and never to judge or retaliate.
If somebody struck them on the face, they must turn the other cheek. In his parable of the Last Day, when the King comes to
judge the world, those who enter the Kingdom do not do so because they have adopted orthodox theology or observed the correct
sexual mores, but because they have fed the hungry, given drink to the thirsty, and visited the sick and criminals in prison.
St. Paul agreed. Christians could have faith that moved mountains, but if they lacked charity it was worth nothing
Islam is also committed to the compassionate ethic. The bedrock message of the Koran is an insistence that it is wrong
to build up a private fortune, and good to share your wealth fairly in order to create a just and decent society where poor
and vulnerable people are treated with respect. On the Last Day the one question that God will ask Muslims is whether they
have looked after the widows, the orphans, and the oppressed, and if they have not, they cannot enter Paradise.
was there such unanimous agreement on the primacy of compassion? Truly religious people are pragmatic. The early prophets
and sages did not preach the discipline of empathy because it sounded edifying, but because experience showed that it worked.
They discovered that greed and selfishness were the cause of our personal misery. When we gave them up, we were happier. Egotism
imprisoned us in an inferior version of ourselves and impeded our enlightenment.
The safest way of combating ego was
to dethrone ourselves from the center of our world and put others there. Perhaps one can explain it this way:
programmed for self-defense,
Human beings completed their biological evolution during the Paleolithic Period, when
they became hunters. Aggression is thus deeply written into our nature. If we make a consistent habit of countering this aggression,
we probably do experience a change of consciousness.
Human beings by nature seek ecstasy, a word that comes from the
Greek ekstasis, meaning "to stand outside the self". If we do not find ecstasy in religion, we turn to art, music, dance,
sex, sports, even drugs. But such rapture can only be temporary.
Religious leaders claim that the practice of the
golden rule can give us an experience of ecstasy that is deeper and more permanent. If every time we are tempted to speak
unkindly of an annoying colleague, a sibling, or an enemy country we asked how we would like such a thing said of ourselves,
and, as a result of this reflection, desisted, in that moment we would transcend our ego.
Living in this way, day
by day, hour by hour, moment by moment, we would enjoy a constant, slow-burning ecstasy that leaves the self behind.
Abraham Joshua Heschel
The late Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel once remarked that when we put ourselves at the opposite
pole of ego, we are the place where God is.
The practice of compassion has to be consistent. It does not work if it
is selective. If, as Jesus explained, we simply love those who are well disposed toward us, no effort is involved. We are
simply banking up our own egotism and remain trapped in the selfishness that we are supposed to transcend. That, I think,
is why Jesus demanded that his followers love their enemies. They were required to feel with people who would never feel affection
for them, and extend their sympathy without expecting any benefit for themselves.
Does that mean that we are supposed
to "love"; Hitler or Osama Bin Laden? The practice of compassion has nothing to do with feelings. According to the 13th-century
theologian Thomas Aquinas, what we call love simply requires that we seek the good of another. If we allow our rage and hatred
to fester, this would not hurt our enemies. It would probably gratify them, but we ourselves would be diminished.
is what the Buddha called an "unskillful" emotion. Feelings of rage are natural, but if they are indulged they are unhelpful,
since they often proceed from an inflated sense of our own importance.
I have noticed, however, that compassion is
not a popular virtue. In my lectures I have sometimes seen members of the audience glaring at me mutinously: where is the
fun of religion if you can't disapprove of other people!
There are some people, I suspect, who would feel obscurely
cheated if, when they finally arrived in heaven, they found everybody else there as well. Heaven would not be heaven unless
those who reached it could peer over the celestial parapets and watch other unfortunates roasting below.
We need training in compassion because it does not come to us naturally. The ancient Greeks knew this. Every year, on
the festival of Dionysus, Athenian citizens watched tragedies written by Aeschylus, Sophocles, Euripides,and other Playwrights.
It was a course in empathy. Suffering was put on stage, and the audience was able to weep for people whom they normally would
have considered beyond the pale.
These tragedies were part of a religious festival; they were designed to make the
audience extend their sympathy to people such as Oedipus, who murdered his father and had incestuous relations with his mother,
or Heracles, who in a fit of divinely inspired madness killed his wife and children. These powerful dramas gave people a liberating
purification of the emotions that helped transform the horror and disgust inspired by these human tragedies into compassion.
We need to find similarly imaginative ways to educate people today.
The history of each faith's traditions
represent a ceaseless struggle between our inherent tendency to aggression and the mitigating virtue of compassion. Religiously
inspired hatred has caused unimaginable suffering around the world.
But secularism has had its failures too. Auschwitz,
the Gulag, and the regime of Saddam Hussein show the fearful cruelty to which humanity is prone when all sense of the sacred
has been lost.
None of these atrocities could have taken place if people were properly educated in the simplest of
all principles, the golden rule.
We live in one world, and we have to learn to reach out in sympathy to people who
have different opinions, at home and abroad. We need the compassionate ethic more desperately than ever before.